Tuesday Tips { Vendor Negotiations |

I know it’s important to save where you can when it comes to weddings, but keep these quick tips in mind when negotiating with vendors:

  • Don’t be unreasonable: A vendor who charges $2000 for something is not going to give it to you for $1000, so don’t insult them by asking for discounts.
  • Avoid making threats: Saying you’re going to go with another vendor if your demands aren’t met probably won’t result in a deal.
  • Don’t lie: The wedding industry is very small and most vendors know each other. Vendors talk, so don’t go around saying, ‘Well, so and so is charging me $1000 less,’ if it isn’t true.
  • Don’t compare vendors who don’t provide the same type of service or product: You wouldn’t expect to pay for a VW and get a Mercedes – the same is true for wedding vendors. Sometimes you can expect to pay more because of name and reputation, but more often you’ll pay more for experience and expertise.
  • Don’t beat around the bush with your budget: When you make it a secret, a vendor may propose something that is way out of your price range. A good wedding vendor will give you suggestions on how to use their services while staying within your budget, or they may determine that they aren’t the best fit for you. If that’s the case, ask them for recommendations on another vendor who may work better for you.”

Tidbits & Tips { New Rules of Etiquette }

There’s no doubt that you’ll be using social media to announce your engagement {and post about other wedding related events}, but before clicking “post” check out a few quick tips below:

Tips for the Bride & Groom

  • Pick up the phone – please call your parents, grandparents, and closest friends before announcing to the whole world that you’re engaged. Believe me, they’ll appreciate hearing it straight from you rather than Facebook.
  • Posting pics of the ring – by all means, post photos of that gorgeous sparkler! Don’t share details about the carat or price though.
  • Send out printed invites for the main event – e-vites are 100% acceptable for pre & post wedding parties, but printed invites are a must for the ceremony & reception. Plus, printed invites are a great way to give guests a taste of what to expect at the wedding.

Tips for the Guests

  • Private message wedding questions – to avoid any awkwardness for those uninvited, send any wedding questions through email or a private message.
  • Put the phone away – couples spend hundreds of hours planning a soiree that guests will enjoy, so try your best to keep the phone in your purse or pocket. It’s okay to check it every once in a while, but try to avoid responding to emails and texts or even posting a play-by-play of the wedding.
  • Follow directions for the RSVP – if you’re supposed to send back a pre-printed RSVP card, don’t send your RSVP via email, text, or phone call. It’s likely to get lost in the mix.

Tuesday Tips { Destination Weddings 101 }

Destination weddings are some of the best weddings to plan – they’re full of amazing food, great locales, and lots of adventure! If you’re planning an out-of-town shindig we’ve got a few quick tips for you:

  • Do your research – for any wedding outside the United States, make sure to check out this post from the Department of State. It’ll tell you all about documentation, laws, and other requirements needed to marry outside the U.S. Make sure you also check out rules for the specific country in which you’d like to marry. Some require health certificates, translated paperwork, etc.
  • Visit your location – before you sign the contract, take a trip to the venue! Meet with the event coordinator and go though all the details {food, flowers, etc.}. Take a peek at guest rooms, try the food, and figure out the best route from the airport to the hotel.
  • Do the math – while destination weddings are usually more cost effective for the bride & groom, they end up being super expensive for guests {airfare, hotel accommodations, food, etc.}. Try to keep your guests’ budget in mind when planning the wedding. Believe me, they’ll appreciate it!

Tidbits & Tips { Just Breathe }

Imagine – it’s the morning of your wedding and you’ve got the jitters. Here are some quick tips to help calm those nerves down:

  • Exercise – exercising releases endorphins which produces the same feeling as excitement. Try taking a morning bike ride, going for a walk, or even doing some yoga with your bridesmaids. Avoid cardio or anything that’s going to make you too tired, though!
  • Eat – with all the hustle and bustle on wedding day, don’t forget to eat! Start off with a good breakfast {eggs, fresh fruit, and a nice cup of tea sound perfect} and try to avoid foods high in sugar {like soda and sweets}.
  • Set aside some quiet time – try listening to your favorite playlist, read a book, or write down some thoughts in a journal!